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The Eighth Day – Dealing with the Loss of a Child after Shiva© Parashat Shmini 2019/5779

The Eighth Day – Dealing with the Loss of a Child after Shiva©Parashat Shmini 2019/5779 Photo by Ben White on Unsplash
I recently spoke with a colleague about a group of congregants who have an unfortunate connection - parents who have lost children. He told me a story of a rabbi who had lost his child. This rabbi had just started his work at a new congregation. For those who are not rabbis, there is nothing more joyous than the beginning of your time working at a new congregation – your life and work is pregnant with possibilities. You truly believe that the skies are the limit.
And then, tragedy struck – the rabbi and his family lost their thirteen-year-old son. If anyone could handle the loss of a child, it must be a rabbi, right? They have more faith than anyone, more experience than anyone when it comes to coping with loss. How did he handle this loss and overcome tragedy? The rabbi told me the following: “He could not remember one thing from that first year. He walked through a f…