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A Time to Cry and a Time to Mourn - Tisha B'av 2013/5773

At our board retreat yesterday, we had the task of choosing a couple of words that articulate what we do as a congregation and will continue to do at all times.  One of the words that came up a lot was fun.  Our congregation loves to have fun at almost all times, but I told the group that 'fun' cannot be part of our vision because we cannot have fun ALL the time.   Put simply:  it's just not Jewish.  In the next hour or so, we will enter into one of those rare times.  
At a shiva home, visitors often do not know what to say to the mourner's.  Sometimes, people try and make sense of loss to the mourner's and sometimes they try and cheer them up because they do not want them to feel sadness.  The Shulchan Aruch tells us something different - when you approach a mourner, stay silent; let them do the talking, and your task is to listen to them.  However,  if you must say something, say the words, "HaMakom Yinachem Etchem B'toch Avelei Tzion U'Yerushalayim&q…